Last week, 10 men from Iballe village in Puka attended a training on Gender Based Violence. This gathering was full of emotional testimony and meaningful and difficult discussion. For the first time in our years of delivering this training, the men had the courage to speak truthfully about the reality of the situation and gave arguments as to why harmful traditional behaviors are still justified and embraced by communities. The training helped draw the men’s attention to the long-term consequences of domestic violence and gender-based violence in the wellbeing of not only the individual but also the family as a unit. The methodology used was selected very carefully in order to show empathy for our beneficiaries and to make them aware of the complex nature of the phenomenon. We discussed cases where they themselves could be victims of gender based violence, helped build their knowledge about the cycle of violence, and taught them how to improve their relationships in their families and take the first step towards change.